I was watching a television series on Showtime today. During the series this woman was distraught over the fact that her husband had left her and she desperately wanted more children. She was looking for another man to "help" her have another baby and began asking him a series of questions about his family history....."do you have any history of....." Celiac Disease, Heart Disease, and she spouted off a few other common problems....but last she said...Cystic Fibrosis.
I guess if the man would have said yes to any of those she would have rescinded her offer. Anytime I hear about Cystic Fibrosis in the media especially on television when it's not for awareness purposes I always feel like it's in a negative light.
Like that woman wouldn't have wanted a child with Cystic Fibrosis. Now I know this is all fictional in this case but there are people out there who really feel this way. And I suppose there is nothing wrong with everyone having an opinion, but I take offense when I have a child with Cystic Fibrosis and others imply that they would just assume not pro-create if CF was a possibility.
I know that for some Cyster's or families of carriers they chose not to have children. But for me and my family we are walking on the path that was set out for us. And Cystic Fibrosis is part of the foundation. Of course if we could have we would have prevented Ayla having CF. But the truth is we can't. But we don't want CF or any other "genetic" trait to prevent our family from going where it needs to go. I don't want CF to prevent Ayla from having a sibling.
I guess this really hit a nerve with me today...I felt so offended when the woman in this tv show said that. Those people who have kids with special needs or have special needs themselves can't possibly make others understand how it is to live life.
We all know it sucks to have CF, it sucks to be a carrier of CF....But it sucks even worse to be a parent of a child with CF and have the media display the disease in this way..Like it's a choice...you can't genetically design your children to be what you want them to be. And CF is not a removable part of our lives. Without CF we wouldn't have Ayla....without Ayla we wouldn't have CF, they are a package that come hand in hand.
This post may not portray the way everyone dealing with CF feels but it's how I feel and I felt I had to speak my mind.
I wonder how it makes other CF families feel when they see CF in the media,being portrayed in a negative way?
~krista